Building Resilience in Campers

At Widjiitiwin, campers and staff often get scrapes, bumps and bruises. Sometimes they get sick for a day or two. Sometimes they fall and hit their head, arm or butt. 

Camp is far and away the safest place for these things to happen to children. Because children are away from home, they adapt and learn the skills needed to deal with relatively minor adversities of life. Of course, they do this with the warm and thoughtful assistance of caring staff.

When children at camp face a bit of diversity, the staff at camp – cabin leaders, the chiefs, program staff, directors, even kitchen and service staff – are all here to pick them up, help with their adaptation skills and move on.

What better place to learn to handle the trials and tribulations of daily life is there than camp? We can’t think of any. 

Camp has this incredible way of impacting so many people in so many different ways. When campers think they are spending the summer simply having fun, they often have no idea the character, social skills and self-confidence they are building at the same time. Camp helps foster empathy toward others. It can make them responsible, kind and brave. It also makes them resilient.

Campers are pushed (gently) out of their comfort zones every day when they are at camp. They are encouraged to try new things. Sometimes they make mistakes, but campers are taught that the only time you fail is when you stop trying. Because of this attitude, campers learn to pick themselves up and brush themselves off. They learn to face adversity — a skill they carry with them for the rest of their lives. At SALT we call it “failing with dignity“.

Cabin leaders teach campers that being tough doesn’t mean you’re void of emotions. You can be brave and scared at the same time. It’s okay to cry, feel frustrated, even walk away if you need a break (as long as the cabin leader knows where they are). It’s okay to ask for help. Campers face different kinds of challenges very day, all summer, from attempting the ropes course, swimming for the first time, conquering stage fright or just introducing themselves to new people. But every time they face a fear, even if they struggle, they become a little more resilient each time. They learn to embrace stepping out of their comfort zone.

Self-confidence is not something that comes naturally to all campers, but it is something they develop after a summer at camp. They naturally begin to see themselves as capable, smart, brave, athletic, kind, interesting and strong. It sets a solid foundation for the people they are becoming.

Camp helps mold campers into confident and resilient individuals, all disguised as the best summer they’ve ever had.

Borrowed in part from Camp Laurel

Have You Been to God’s Night School?

PrayHave you been to God’s night school? You know you have. I certainly have. Too many times to count. It’s the middle of the night and for seemingly no good reason there you are, lying WIDE AWAKE. Even if you’ve had a sleeping pill, fan on, window open or warm milk (I never did understand that one) and all the other perfect sleeping conditions, you just CAN’T. FALL. BACK. ASLEEP. Whatever is occupying your subconscious mind wakes you up. And keeps you awake even after using the bathroom. You try listening to music, tossing and turning, changing pillows, reading, making notes (that are, of course, unintelligible in the morning), blankets up, blankets down, switch side to side, 87 different positions and by the time you have done all of that it finally occurs to you that maybe, just maybe I should pray. 

Over the last few weeks my sleep has been disturbed many nights. I worry. I always have. I can tell you that I have an average of 12.7 nights a month when I lie awake and I lose just over a half hour of sleep each time. And you likely do as well, though maybe not so many. We worry about our kids, our work, our spouse, our friends, family & loved ones, even the pandemic. Why should I worry? What does it help? 

If you can’t sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there worrying. It’s the worry that gets you, not the lack of sleep. Dale Carnegie

Jesus says it so well in Luke 12:25-31 And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? If then you are not able to do as small a thing as that, why are you anxious about the rest? Consider the lilies, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass, which is alive in the field today, and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, how much more will he clothe you, O you of little faith! And do not seek what you are to eat and what you are to drink, nor be worried. For all the nations of the world seek after these things, and your Father knows that you need them. Instead, seek his kingdom, and these things will be added to you.

Worrying doesn’t accomplish much does it? BUT, prayer does. 

If you are up late tonight (or the next time you are wide awake not sleeping), ask God this one question, “What’s next God!“. And when you’re lying awake, you can most definitely pray. Start with those who God brings to your mind. 

She Chose Life for Me!!

World Adoption Day is coming up on Monday, November 9th and I want to thank a woman I never got to meet. 

I need to thank my birth mom for giving me life. Many of you know that I’m adopted. My birth mom was Elizabeth Madge Osmond. She had other options after discovering she was pregnant with me, but she chose life and adoption for me. I am SO very grateful for that. She passed away in the summer of 2018, and I feel a loss for someone I never got to meet. 

You can likely guess that I am pro life and you would be right. Every life is precious and we are all made in the image of God. 

At Christmas of 2019, my oldest daughter, Nicole, reached out to my half brother Sam and basically said, “I think my dad is your brother”. As it turns out I was a HUGE surprise to the family that she had kept for 55 years (and she was known for not being able to keep a secret). As Sam informed Jill, my sister, she had to sit down as it was quite a shock. Jill started contacting my uncles to see if anyone might have known something. As it would turn out there was in fact some knowledge about me within the family.

There are no secrets, just delayed knowledge. 

Since then, I have grown to love this new family of mine. They have shown me great grace and taken me in as one of their own (which I am). It is fantastic to find some people that I look like. At 6’2″ I am actually average height for a man in the Osmond family. That’s both weird and cool at the same time. 

I became the impetus to start a regular video chat with the cousins on the first and third Sunday evenings of each month. First to introduce me, now to build community with family. We cross five time zones in Canada and the USA. And we’re planning a family get-together/reunion next summer in Pictou, Nova Scotia. 

I have been writing about adoption around the World Adoption Day for  few years now. If you want to read any of those other blogs, you can check them out on the Widjiitiwin.ca website. 

God’s Goodness in Pain & Suffering

Romans 8:28 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 

This verse doesn’t mean all things will be good. No matter how rose-colored our glasses are, there’s nothing good about cancer, sex trafficking, the Covid-19 pandemic, or death. Until Jesus returns and conquers Satan once and for all, sin will continue to drag its poisonous tentacles across our world, damaging and destroying everything in its wake.

The truth of Romans 8:28 reminds us that although sin and Satan are powerful, God is more powerful; He is able to redeem and restore anything for our good and his glory. All things may not be good, but God can and will use all things for good.

Crucially, though, this promise is limited to “those who love God,” and “those who are called according to His purpose.”

And, don’t miss Romans 8:29 – “For those God foreknew, He also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers”. The “good” God has promised his children is to conform them to the image of Christ, for the purpose of bringing himself glory.

A wise Bible teacher once said, “God allows everything into our lives for one of two purposes—either to bring us into a relationship with himself or, if we already know him, to make us more like His Son.”

The last paragraph (from The Shack) is a helpful way in looking at God’s goodness and pain/suffering.

“Just because I work incredible good out of an unspeakable tragedies doesn’t it means I orchestrate the tragedies. Don’t ever assume that me using something means I caused it or that I needed to accomplish my purpose. That will only lead you to false notions about me. Grace doesn’t depend on suffering to exist, but where there is suffering your find grace in many facets and colours.”

Joni Eareckson Tada said, “God permits what he hates to accomplish what he loves.” There is no greater evidence of this than the cross of Jesus Christ. God permitted what he hates–the sacrifice of his Son–to accomplish what he loves–salvation for all who will put their trust in him.“

Randy Alcorn said, “Good Friday isn’t called bad Friday because we see it in retrospect: We know that out of the appalling bad came inexpressible good. And that good trumps the bad. Although the bad was temporary, the good was eternal. If someone had delivered Jesus from his suffering, Jesus could not have delivered us from ours.“

Adrian Rogers said, “In the chemistry of the cross God takes things that, in and of themselves, are bad, and He puts them together, much as a chemist might take chemicals that, in and of themselves, may be deleterious and mixes them to make a medicine that brings healing. The good is not to make us necessarily healthy or happy but to make us holy, to make us like Jesus.” 

Remember and Return

photo of a MasterCard“Let any man turn to God in earnest, let him begin to exercise himself unto godliness, let him seek to develop his powers of spiritual receptivity by trust and obedience and humility, and the results will exceed anything he may have hoped in his leaner and weaker days.” – A.W. Tozer

Give Thanks for the Gifts of God

ThankfulEvery good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change – James 1:17. What are you thankful for this year? Here’s my list. 

Learning How To Lose

Failure is not optional because we certainly don’t always win.

“Winning is great, sure, but if you are really going to do something in life, the secret is learning how to lose. Nobody goes undefeated all the time. If you can pick up after a crushing defeat, and go on to win again, you are going to be a champion someday.”  Wilma Rudolph

So often in our culture today we don’t teach our children how to lose. And how to get back up again after they do lose. And how to lose graciously. Part of the problem with always giving everyone a participation ribbon is that once they leave high school, the world, college and university don’t function like that. We have to make it on our own merit. Learning how to lose builds resiliency! 

So much depends on our attitude in losing. I may just be waxing on here about “find the silver lining” but isn’t there something almost comforting about knowing how big the sandbox is you get to play in?

So, take a look around at the things that cannot be changed and instead of just accepting them and moving on, try to look for some of the value in the clarity that the unchangeable gives. 

“Your attitude is like a box of crayons that color your world. Constantly color your picture gray, and your picture will always be bleak. Try adding some bright colors to the picture by including humor, and your picture begins to lighten up.” Allen Klein

New leaders need an environment where they can fail and get back up again. We practice this with our Skills And Leadership Training program. We call it “Failing with Dignity“. Our SALTers have the opportunity to learn lots during their time at Widji and part of that is in the third week of the program they participate with the campers in leading cabin devotions, leading in chapel and camp games. We want them to try out their leadership in a safe environment. Camp offers that opportunity to be coached & grow in new skills. 

Fall down seven times, get up eight. Japanese proverb. Don’t get stuck in “I wish it wasn’t like this” thoughts. Get BACK Up!!

Cooking with Moose: Apple Pie Jam

apple pie jam on toastSummer has turned to fall. The autumn leaves are changing into beautiful colours and falling to the ground. It will soon be Thanksgiving weekend in Canada. To celebrate the season, enjoy a taste of fall as the apple harvest is in full swing. 

A new recipe from Moose’s family cookbook, “That Tastes Like Home”. This one came from a friend, Ruth Greenleaf. Today’s recipe: Apple Pie Jam 

Ingredients

  • 1 lb tart apples (3 cups) 
  • 4 ½ cups sugar
  • 1 cup brown sugar
  • 1 cup water
  • 1/3 cup lemon juice
  • 1 tsp cinnamon
  • ¼ tsp nutmeg
  • 1 box pectin

Directions

  • Wash and pre-heat jars
  • Peel, core and chop apples, place in large pot
  • Add water, lemon juice, spices and pectin
  • Stir on high heat until boiling
  • Boil hard 1 minute, remove from heat & add sugar
  • Return to full boil for 1 minute, stirring constantly
  • Remove from heat, skim foam, stirring for 5 minutes
  • Ladle into hot jars, attach lids, let sit until they seal (lids pop down) 
  • Place in boiling water canner for 10-15 minutes (optional)

Also makes an amazing ice cream topping!

Enjoy!!

Is Your Spiritual Reservoir Full?

Derwent Reservoir, Derbyshire, England

It’s important to keep your spiritual reservoir full. How are you doing with that? Need a little help or motivation? This is true especially when you are part of the spiritual feeding of others. 

Spiritual Disciplines

  • Bible reading, try a daily reading plan. Just four chapters a day will get you though the Bible in a year. 
  • Prayers of adoration, confession, thanksgiving and petitions; for loved ones, often these need to be ongoing.
  • Fellowship with fellow Christians, at church, small group, at work, Bible study, neighbours
  • Having a spiritual mentor, someone who is ahead of you on their journey with God and can offer prayer and spiritual encouragement
  • Personal devotions, daily as best as possible 
  • Being in God’s creation; nature has a way to show us the God through His creation. Sitting in the middle of the woods listening to the wind in the trees waiting on God. 
  • Having a grateful heart attitude for all that God has given each of us. 
  • Meditation on God’s Word
  • Reflection on the person and work of Jesus. Remember that the God of the universe came down from heaven, became human, bled and died on the cross for our salvation. 

Discipline, Desire & Delight

These are stages of our seeking God. It takes work. You need a plan. Life is SO busy that you can’t just happen into it. You need something that triggers a response in you. But you don’t want to – it’s easier to act you way into a new way of feeling than feel your way into a new way of acting.

The 5 Ones by Faith Baptist Muskoka – read more here

  1. WORD: One-On-One Time I Spend With God Each Day
  2. WORSHIP: One Worship Service I Attend Each Week
  3. GROUP: One Group I Attend Regularly
  4. SERVE: One Ministry I Serve In Regularly
  5. REACH: One Friend I Reach For Christ

You may also like

What Makes You Marvel?

NASA's Cosmic 'Winter' Wonderland; Chandra X-ray Observatory Center
NASA’s Cosmic ‘Winter’ Wonderland; Chandra X-ray Observatory Center

What makes you marvel? To marvel by definition means: 

  • To be filled with wonder or astonishment or admiration.
  • A wonderful or astonishing person or thing. 
  • Things that make you say WOW!

Things that make me marvel… 

  • The Grand Canyon (the first sight literally stopped me in my tracks) 
  • An amazing multi-coloured sunset (especially if it has purple in it)
  • When each of my kids and grand-kids were born
  • Magicians & illusionists (I want to know how they do those tricks that make me see or not see what I’m looking at)
  • The sun shining through dark clouds 
  • The wondrous colours of trees in the fall in Muskoka
  • The power and force of running water and rain (must be why I like waterfalls) 
  • Being on a cruise and looking out at only ocean (made me feel very small) 
  • Pictures of far out galaxies and stars like the one pictured right
  • People who can work with mechanical machines. If it’s not wood, I’m out. 
  • The architecture of old buildings and how they were created with hand tools, winches and leverage
  • Movie special effects (insert Marvel, Lord of the Rings, the Hobbit, Disney, Star Wars, etc.) 

***Here’s the thing that causes me to marvel the most. I am amazed and astonished that the God of the universe would even care about man, but that he would come down to earth, put on flesh as a man, live, be crucified and die for us taking our sins on His body, be forsaken by the Father and on the third day be raised to life to give us salvation and everlasting life. AND – Jesus loves me. Me!! With all my faults and sin. And He loves you too.

Marvel, ponder, wonder and meditate on that for a while this week.