Relationships Take Work

Elaine & I at the Biltmore Estate
Elaine & I at the Biltmore Estate, in Ashville, NC

It’s all about relationships and they take hard work, sometimes a lot of it. And persistence and character and love and grace and mercy!

1. Elaine and I set aside Tuesday’s all summer as our joint day off. We try to get a way from camp, although my cell phone does go with me. We go on hikes, out for meals, movies, boating, camping, shopping, The Ex and Toronto Island. 
2. We started going on dates when our girls were young. They thought we were “cute”. In fact we are. Always having camp staff around made finding babysitters fairly easy. 
3. We took a two week vacation in October. The first park was with the whole family (all our girls, two sons in law & our granddaughter Olivia). The second part was Elaine and I traveling for nine days through the Blue Ridge Parkway in the Great Smokey Mountains. It was a great trip and a lot of fun. We often didn’t plan where we would stay or what we would see. It’s an adventure! 
4. It’s not always easy. Communication is hard. Words and tones can be misunderstood. Go carefully. 

Mike/Moose

Red Marbles

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By W. E. Petersen

One day Mr. Miller was bagging some early potatoes for me. I noticed a small boy, delicate of bone and feature, ragged but clean, hungrily apprising a basket of freshly picked green peas.

I paid for my potatoes but was also drawn to the display of fresh green peas. I am a pushover for creamed peas and new potatoes.

Pondering the peas, I couldn’t help overhearing the conversation between Mr. Miller and the ragged boy next to me.

“Hello Barry, how are you today?”
“H’lo, Mr. Miller. Fine, thank ya. Jus’ admirin’ them peas … sure look good.”
“They are good, Barry. How’s your Ma?”
“Fine. Gittin’ stronger alla’ time.”
“Good. Anything I can help you with?”
“No, Sir. Jus’ admirin’ them peas.”
“Would you like to take some home?”
“No, Sir. Got nuthin’ to pay for ’em with.”
“Well, what have you to trade me for some of those peas?”
“All I got’s my prize marble here.”
“Is that right? Let me see it.”
“Here ’tis. She’s a dandy.”
“I can see that. Hmmmmm, only thing is this one is blue and I sort of go for red. Do you have a red one like this at home?”
“Not zackley … but almost.”
“Tell you what. Take this sack of peas home with you and next trip this way let me look at that red marble.”
“Sure will. Thanks Mr. Miller.”

Mrs. Miller, who had been standing nearby, came over to help me. With a smile she said, “There are two other boys like him in our community, all three are in very poor circumstances. Jim just loves to bargain with them for peas, apples, tomatoes, or whatever. When they come back with their red marbles, and they always do, he decides he doesn’t like red after all and he sends them home with a bag of produce for a green marble or an orange one, perhaps.”

I left the stand smiling to myself, impressed with this man. A short time later I moved to Colorado but I never forgot the story of this man, the boys, and their bartering.

Several years went by, each more rapid that the previous one. Just recently I had occasion to visit some old friends in that Idaho community and while I was there learned that Mr. Miller had died. They were having his viewing that evening and knowing my friends wanted to go, I agreed to accompany them.

Upon arrival at the mortuary we fell into line to meet the relatives of the deceased and to offer whatever words of comfort we could. Ahead of us in line were three young men. One was in an army uniform and the other two wore nice haircuts, dark suits and white shirts … all very professional looking.

They approached Mrs. Miller, standing composed and smiling by her husband’s casket. Each of the young men hugged her, kissed her on the cheek, spoke briefly with her and moved on to the casket. Her misty light blue eyes followed them as, one by one, each young man stopped briefly and placed his own warm hand over the cold pale hand in the casket. Each left the mortuary awkwardly, wiping his eyes.

Our turn came to meet Mrs. Miller. I told her who I was and mentioned the story she had told me about the marbles. With her eyes glistening, she took my hand and led me to the casket. “Those three young men who just left were the boys I told you about. They just told me how they appreciated the things Jim ‘traded’ them. Now, at last, when Jim could not change his mind about color or size … they came to pay their debt.”

“We’ve never had a great deal of the wealth of this world,” she confided, “but right now, Jim would consider himself the richest man in Idaho.”

With loving gentleness she lifted the lifeless fingers of her deceased husband. Resting underneath were three exquisitely shined red marbles.

“…love one another; as I have loved you…. By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:34-35

Camp Pastors 2016

163835_179675448724143_5092305_nEvery summer at Widjiitiwin we have an excellent group of summer camp pastors who each give a week of their time to be at camp to teach the Bible to campers and staff. We highly value the time these men invest into teaching God’s Word, the staff and campers.

Our camp pastors for #Widji16 are:

  • Royal City Camp – Newb
  • TNT 1 & Blast 1 – Chipstack
  • TNT 2 & Blast 2 – Nate Pifer 
  • Fresh Air Camp – TBA
  • TNT 3 & Blast 3 – Boyardee
  • Escape Camp – Hughson Staff
  • Venture Camp -Sad Sac & Nemo
  • Sizzle – Sherlock
  • Ephraim’s Place – TBA

This summer we will welcome to all our camp pastors and their families! Please pray for these men as they pray, prepare and give their time to impact the Kingdom of God at Widjiitiwin.

Camp Widjiitiwinthe way camp was meant to be… relational, central, natural, reaching out, a loving community focused on Christ. It’s like coming home, it’s my camp!

Seasons of Doubt

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This is for anyone and everyone and me who have moments or seasons of doubt. We often see doubt as failure so we try earnestly to avoid it. Failing to know what doubt is what really needs to be avoided. Below is an excerpt from a talk from Paul Enns.

Sometimes we think of our faith as a fortress. It’s comfortable and above all safe. But what if God doesn’t want us to be comfortable and safe? What if comfortable and safe keep us from pursuing God? After all – what is safe? God isn’t safe. Not according to scripture, creation or CS Lewis. But He is good.

Sooner or later God—because He is good—tears your fortress down, and He pushes you out, and puts you on a spiritual journey—which always involves some deep struggle.

Doubt forces us to look at who we think God is. It makes us face whether we really trust HIM, or whether we trust what we have made God to be. Doubting God is painful and frightening because we think we are leaving God behind. But doubt—real hard deep unnerving uncomfortable scary doubt—helps us to see that, maybe we have made God into our own image. We come to discover, slowly but surely, that the “faith” we are losing is not faith in God. It is actually in the idea of God that we surround ourselves with.”

Angry Letters

ANGRYLETTERSYou know when someone does something that really bugs you? And you decide to send them an angry letter or email or text? There may be a momentary rush of excitement or satisfaction where you have stuck it to the other person, but that feeling will fade quickly and leave you with just the hurt again.

Sending the angry letter may not go quite the way you hope it will. Writing that letter in the heat of the anger or frustration will probably lead to hurt feelings and misunderstanding on both sides. I have seen good relationships soured by words said in too big a hurry.

Here’s a little sage advice I picked up a few years ago. This advice comes courtesy of Dr. Roy Lawson and was passed on to me by my friend and mentor Paul Whittingstall. 

Dr. Roy said you should write the letter you really want to write and don’t send it. Yet. Wait a few days and then write the letter that should be written. That means taking all the hurt out of the letter. By which I mean the hurt you may want them to feel. Tske out the acustory language any inappropriate words. Take out the

Keep it simple and clear. Try something like, “when you did that, it hurt my feelings in this way”. Seek to be reconciled with the other person.

There was a time not so long ago that you had to mail a letter and put a stamp on it and the other person didn’t get it for three days. With the advent of the fax machine, then email, texts and other instant communication the problem has only been compounded.

angry-letter4-300x292So next time you want to send that letter to deal with the other person; slow the whole process down. Write or type out your feelings as it will help you process. Then hit the pause button! When you’re not longer (or much less) ticked off. Rewrite the note to the way it should be. Pray for wisdom in what to say and what not to say.

Even then, you don’t have to send it. Maybe it would be best for the relationship if you just forgave them and left the letter unsent.

Whatever you decide, don’t send the angry letter!!

Aging Advantages and Pitfalls

CWwbPy7WEAESGF7I’m sitting in my favourite chair at home, being generally good about not moving too far or too fast. A week ago Sunday I did something to my knee that caused me significant pain. Turns out I probably wrecked the meniscus or a ligament on the inside of my left knee. I tore the cartilage on the other knee as a teen. Since I can only “rest” it has given me a little time to pause and reflect. 

  • As we age we gain wisdom and experience and knowledge and perspective and maturity. We also discover what we value like family & friends and our faith. Each of these contributes to making us a better person and more capable of helping/leading others. 
  • We also fall apart faster. Things like knees, ankles, eye sight & energy have gone down hill for me. I still have my hips & hearing (not counting the selectivity kind of hearing I occasionally get accused of). In case you’re not sure, aging can suck!

Several axioms come to mind. 

  • I’m old enough to know better, but young enough to do it again
  • Inside every man is a grade 8 boy waiting to get into trouble
  • Now my body says, “You can’t do this boy”, But my pride says, “Oh, yes you can”! I ain’t as good as I once was. by Toby Keith
  • Growing old is compulsory, growing up is optional. 
  • I don’t know how to act my age, I’ve never been this age before. 

Some regular Aleve, ice packs and rest have helped a lot in making me feel better. I’m looking forward to a great year in 2016. Back to work today! 🙂 

Mint Jar

IMG_20151222_152703Ever since I can remember, my dad had a jar of scotch mints or jelly beans in his office. When I got a desk and my own office I started a similar tradition. I started with rockets candy and discovered they were too addicting. Then I tried M & M Peanuts, but discovered they got eaten by others (Mud) too fast for me to be able to afford them. It was going to cost me over $600 per year. Needless to say I needed to find something that wasn’t so expensive. I settled on scotch mints. Like father like son it turns out. Also, people don’t tend to eat more than a couple at one time. 

A few times I have given a mint jar to someone as a start for their new office. This Christmas I sent small jars to my 2015 Widji summer leadership staff. They spent a lot of time eating mints in my office. We even debated the virtues of pink or green mints. It always comes back to the white ones for me. 

A new tradition has begun. I hope they like it!

2016 Widji Themes

Our 2016 themes are Disney: Frozen to Neverland, Atlantis and Olympics!

frozen2neverlandDisney: Frozen to Neverland

Join Peter Pan, the Lost Boys and Wendy as you fly past the second star to the right and straight on til you see Avondale and the princesses Aunna & Elsa! Join the girls for a Princess Tea Party or the boys for Man Skills night. Do you want to build a snowman? Either way, let it go and come to Widji in 2016!

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You have been waiting for this moment all year; you have been training since you heard the news; now you can hear the crowds screaming your name as you take your place and get ready! Get set! BANG! You register that spot! You buy that tuck! You sing those songs! You speed past your inhibitions and leap all social hurdles and yes! YES! You’ve done it! CAMP WIDJIITIWIN!! Cheering your way towards gold-medal victory! TRIUMPH!!!

8f82eaecf90feb34f504edb95f007598Atlantis

A long time ago the island of Atlantis disappeared into the depths of the sea. No one knows quite where. Join our group of explorers this summer at Widji to find the shepherd’s journal, discover the mysterious lost city of Atlantis, rescue the princess and save the kingdom.

We are the Reason for the Season

Jesus was born in Bethlehem over 2000 years ago, a fact that Christians celebrate at Christmas time. No doubt most of us are already preparing for family, friends and other guests to arrive in a week or so. 

However, Jesus came to earth for more than Christmas, for more than gifts and generosity, for more than big turkey dinners and spending time with family, for more than trees or lights or snowmen, for more than stockings hung on the mantle or shortbread cookies or pumpkin pie.

Christmas wasn’t the goal, but rather just the beginning of Jesus’ time here on earth. Easter is what Jesus coming as a baby was all about. 33 years after His birth, Jesus was crucified for our sin.

John 3:16 tells us that Jesus came to die for US. He came to reconcile mankind to God. You see, without Jesus we are out of relationship with God because He is holy and we are sinners. With Jesus we can come back into a right relationship with God. 

At Christmas, in the midst of the wrapping paper and ribbons, food and family we must look ahead to the cross on which Jesus died. As Christians we are called to help people be reconciled to God. God made Him who knew no sin to be sin for US (2 Corinthians 5:20 & 21). For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 6:23 

Jesus came to die for mankind at Easter, therefore His birth at Christmas was also for us. WE, are the reason for this season. Don’t let the busyness, pressure, or tensions of the holiday season distract you from the angels’ message on the first Christmas. This is a time of good news and great joy!

Camp 4 Christmas!

Merry Christmas from Camp Widjiitiwin!Merry_christmas
Have you thought about giving the Gift of Camp for Christmas? We can help you put something under the tree. Here is the Widji_Camp_4_Christmas_Certificate that you can print out and give to your child or grandchild at Christmas. After all, what better gift is there than the gift of camp? Nothing of course! And here’s why:
  1. Camp is a gift of experience
  2. Camp doesn’t require batteries
  3. You can’t break camp
  4. Camp doesn’t add clutter to your home
  5. Camp can be shared with friends
  6. Camp is a gift of fun, friendship, learning, and a special timemerry christmas
  7. Camp provides memories and skills that will last much longer than any other gift!
Looking for something more for under the tree? Want to put something else Widji under the tree? Get 40% off at the Widji Tuck Shop before December 14th.
Our 2016 themes are: Disney: Frozen to Neverland, Atlantis and Olympics
Merry Christmas,
Mike (Moose) Greenfield
Director
Camp Widjiitiwin

www.mycamp.ca

Being ambassadors for Christ to children and youth